Welcome Raygan. It's incredibly hard, I should imagine, watching someone you love's identity disappearing like that. Alzheimer's is a cruel illness, not just on the person who has it, but also on those who care about that person.
Look, you've got it all wrong! You don't NEED to follow ME, You don't NEED to follow ANYBODY! You've got to think for your selves! You're ALL individuals!
Yes! We're all individuals!