Thanks,guys,sooooo much for all your healing vibes and hugs.I´m feeling a bit better because I have my car back and it "only" costs 300 Euro because my neighbour (the car mech) has been a naughty boy and told my insurance that the front window was bust so they pay part of it.I know that´s really naughty but otherwise the repair would have been 750 Euro....(goodbye Christmas) so I´m really relieved.
I´m still worrying about the kids though although of course I´m soooo glad we "won".They are just behaving so uptight right now.....11 year-olds : urgh.14 year-olds: urgh.16 year-olds: urgh big time.
I know we´ll pull through this but it´s just like Del says:you see other kids their age and you just realize how different they have developed because of all of this and you wish they could just do and think kids stuff and not this crazy stuff all the time.
I´m so sorry for you,Del,I do know what you and the girls are going through,and I know that clause too,one of the reasons I was sued because they were unhappy when they were there and he said it was my fault.I just don´t believe these laws,they seem to me to be demeaning and completly past common sense or any principles of parenting.The kids had to go to a counselling session from the youth office for a while and they actually told them Daddy couldn´t help it,he was ill and the children should have more compassion for poor daddy and shouldn´t forget he was their daddy and they were supposed to love him.But it makes you worry how much they will put their trust in officials when they´re older when they´ve had this kind of experience.It makes you feel so helpless.
We were in luck though,as a few weeks before the court date,the youth helper we had been to so far quit and we got a new one who was very helpful,otherwise it would probably have turned out differently.
Please give H a big hug from me and tell her not to forget her guardian angel is probably pushing overtime.

She doesn´t have to go anymore when she´s 14,does she?At least thats the rule here.So she doesn´t have so long to go and something to look forward to.Although how I´d stand to part with any one of my kids for four weeks I don´t know.You´re all so brave,girls,I´m so proud of you.Keep on going!!
Dotsie...Levellers...very cool.I had a Cd once,but the ex took it when he left.My mum suffers from vertigo sometimes too.I think it´s scary!Good to hear you´re feeling better.
Meer...relish the bubbles,hun.Who knows when you get more!

It´s still magic even if you know how it´s done.