Okay... taking deep breaths... reminding myself that homicide will land me in jail...
So. We don't get to see my father in law and his wife very much because they spend half the year in Florida. We were fondly remembering a trip a few years ago where we spent Thanksgiving with them. Decided we wanted to do try to do this again. Who had to do all the planning and communicating to make this work even though we were both on board and this was his family? Who even had to make sure that Derek requested the time off work? One guess.
Then talk turned to what plans we would make while we're down there. We always have 2 or 3 day trips out for fun stuff. I suggested Universal with the whole Harry Potter thing - no, he didn't want to do that if we didn't stay the night and do both parks, and didn't want to spend the extra $$ on that. Legoland? No, too much $$ for tickets for one day and he's not sure if it will be cool enough to be worth it. Fine. Then I realized that we had enough Disney Dollars to cover a night's stay and tickets to the Christmas party in the Magic Kingdom. Great! Everybody's happy!
Then we hear from f.i.l. that plans have to shift a bit and we're going to go the week after Thanksgiving - no big deal, entirely doable. But, Derek thinks it's a waste to have those days off at the end of the week before and that weekend and wait to go down. So, he wants to go down early anyway so we can still use the time off work/school and enjoy ourselves before going to his dad's. Ok with me. He says lets go down this day and we'll spend two nights at Disney and get to enjoy a couple more things to do there. Fine with me. I spend a ridiculous amount of time on the phone yesterday just to book the room and the (non-refundable) party tickets. He gets home from work, I let him know we're set and ask him a question about something else we might want to do while we're there. And he EXPLODES! Not only does he blow up over the extra planning and cost of what I suggested (both stupidly minimal, and all the planning is on me of course), he then accuses me of talking us into 2 nights instead of the original 1 night.
Let me just say here that we've got money set aside for vacation. There is no reason to freak out about the money. So, what the hell is the problem? This was just supposed to be a fun little getaway to give everyone a break. Now it is most definitely not fun. And the yelling thing? Let me just say that he normally has a far better sense of self preservation than that. Yeah. "Homicidal" is not really covering it at the moment.