If you want to reply to a specific post, you can use the "quote" at the top right of the person post.
As for being "pinned" on the map,
You can do that here:viewtopic.php?f=1&t=319&start=1155
This thread is usually within the top 2nd or 3rd post under this (General Discussion) thread.
As for notifications,
I think you can set something in your "User Control Panel" for some notifications, but I don't know id you can set it so that you get a notifications when someone adds to a thread?
You lost me on the "licks" though.
I'll leave that to one of the experts: Del can you help out??
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