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In need of a hug, please

Postby WannabeAngua » Wed Apr 01, 2009 8:54 pm

My grandmother died a few days ago :(
Not sure if they landed on an alzheimer or dementia diagnosis, but she's been sick for well over 10 years in total and totally "gone" for the last 2 or 3. I haven't seen her for quite some time because she got confused and a bit scared after visits from people she didn't recognize. But I haven't really felt that the woman in the nursing home was the same grandmother who babysat me and that I had so much fun with growing up. Guess I said goodbuy to that grandmother awhile ago. But now it feels very final, and I'm very sad (and a bit relieved for her now that she doesn't have to suffer anymore - she got so sick near the end).
I'm going to say a few words in her funeral this friday and all these memories keep coming up when I try to figure out what to write down.
Am really going to miss her a lot :cry:
And to top it all, I'm stressed out by finding a way to get back to my parents home, with my son and all the things he need, and I'm not sure my boyfriend will be able to get back from work in time for the funeral.

*Sigh* Feel I need a drink, but what I really need is a hug and to drag myself to bed.
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Postby Tonyblack » Wed Apr 01, 2009 9:10 pm

Sorry I'm so late seeing this - I was watching a movie.


Your grandmother will always live in your heart for as long as you remember her. Remember the good times you had together and cherish them above the later times when she didn't know you.

I hope with all my heart that things go better for you in the near future.
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Postby Tiffany » Wed Apr 01, 2009 9:44 pm

I'm sorry I didn't see your post sooner too, WannabeAngua.


All the best to you.
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Postby Who's Wee Dug » Wed Apr 01, 2009 10:25 pm

Just seem your post, you have my sympathy,and as many BIG HUGS as you need.
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Postby Jan Van Quirm » Wed Apr 01, 2009 11:55 pm

And from me - is never easy especially if you've been out of touch for such a sad, but necessary reason. Though as you say the 'release' aspect does give a little consolation, even if you missed the lady from your memories

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Postby swreader » Thu Apr 02, 2009 5:51 am

This will be moe of a good morning hug, but it's late even by my time and I just saw this.

I have had some simliar experiences with friends or relatives who seemed to have "gone" well before they died, and it is an odd situation. I found that I had such mixed feelings -- almost as if I'd saved up my grief and had it all at once, and then mixed in a sense of well, now she/he is finally at peace.

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Postby Jason » Thu Apr 02, 2009 6:27 am

Hugs, my wishes are with you and your family.
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Postby Dotsie » Thu Apr 02, 2009 9:36 am

Big hugs from me too

Losing your Gran is really awful, so I really feel for you. :cry:
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Postby Batty » Thu Apr 02, 2009 10:00 am


Eventually, you will remember her as the lady from your childhood, who watched you growing up, and the 'other' person who took her place (and memory) will not seem so predominant.

Every time you picture her smiling and laughing, you'll find yourself smiling too.
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Postby poohbcarrot » Thu Apr 02, 2009 1:39 pm

Losing somebody you love is awful. But it makes you really appreciate what you do have.

All the best for Friday, we'll all be thinking of you.
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Postby » Thu Apr 02, 2009 5:29 pm

really sorry for your loss
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Postby cols » Thu Apr 02, 2009 8:21 pm

Big hugs from me too,
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Postby Catch-up » Fri Apr 03, 2009 12:10 pm

HUGE HUGS! I'm so sorry. :( I'll be thinking of you today and hoping everything goes smoothly.
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Postby Straw Walker » Fri Apr 03, 2009 9:00 pm

HUGS from old Colon too. My Mum died of cancer just after I got married. She's still beside me every day.
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Postby simone » Sat Apr 04, 2009 1:18 pm

All the HUGS you need- my mother had Dementia/ whatever, and cringed away from me, her oldest son- broke my heart. :(
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