Oh Toothy.... I thought you were doing Calendar Girls this time. (?) What production was this then?
Oh well.... hoping it warms up there before you have to get your gear off.
(Surely thats why they made it a summer production.
Yes. I do take the meds. Early too, rather than later .... a lesson I finally learned to heed to head them off. Doesnt seem to be working this time.
THIS made ME and three very delighted girls smile about two weeks ago. I have not posted here because I was told not to until THEY could say thank you personally
but I finally had all three in one place tonight and our time all went out the window with one thing and another, so they couldnt come on. So they told me to do it myself. (Hayden will post when she is finally over the last week of school and on holidays next week)
A huge thank you to Toothy. We talk in pm's at times and like alot
of you has been a great support when it all went to hell in a handbasket. (even when she had NO idea what was going on I would get little messages... I didnt want to burden the newbie with my rubbish
I had told her about how I was trying to "condition" Hayden to get her to move away from the ex-arse when he was angry. As part of her condition H doesnt realise consequences sometimes so I have strategies or "keys" to prompt her. She had a "calm down" bracelet when she was first ordered to go back to visit him and she placed great store in it, and would rub it when she was worried or scared, (
what is WRONG with that sentence???) but then it broke. We got another but it just wasn't the same and I was at my wits end as to what to do.
Toothy and her daughter went hunting and bought Hayden a new "calm down bracelet" .. two in fact in case one didn't work!
and sent them to Hayden. They were so well received (excited doesnt really cover it... a present from the Tooth Fairy??!!) and they seem to have done the trick beautifully. (Oh now I am tearing up..) Toothy; thank you. It may seem a small gesture from you but knowing Hayden feels safer in herself when she goes over there and has ways of dealing with things is such a huge deal to me.
But she and her daughter didnt stop there. They thought it was unfair for just Hayden to get a gift so sent a gorgeous delicate necklace for Morgan (it hasn't been off her neck!), a bracelet for Truly (I told her she was psychic as it was SO very her style) and THEN the most amazing dazzling turtle broach for me!
Far too extravagant.
Morgan put it in a nutshell. Her faith in most things was destroyed when her evidence to the family psychologist was disbelieved without question. It had a really profound effect on her more than I can say. She hadn't just lost trust in "the system" but in people in general. Well, this quiet one said to me something to the effect of "Mum, I sort of thought we were all alone fighting off him and noone believed us. Its pretty amazing that so many people take time out of their own lives to do and say nice things just to make Hayden feel better. And they thought of you and me and Truly too. And they have never even met us!! Some people I thought would stick by me didnt want to know me when it got really messy and yet this girl on the other side of the world did this." She told me it had restored alot of what she used to believe in about people.
Hayden meantime is trying to figure out "fairy logistics". She had never considered that the Tooth fairy had family before... let alone teenage daughters!! ... or went shopping... or had to use the post...
Just keep swimming... just keep swimming.. just keep swimming....