Thanks Kin. Its been a bit of a trial (bo-dom-tish!)
I have to admit I put off doing an update on things here for awhile (as I said some members of the forum knew and some had inklings) so I felt I HAD to post. I just didn't want to have to go over it all again and it seemed so involved and I didn't want to bore anyone. But its been cathat... cathaaar.... GOOD in hindsight.
Its getting so much better day by day. For everyone. Lots of stuff still happening and will for a while and things to deal with (like fattening up Morgan). I spent a whole week eating everything in sight

so unlike me. I was determined to blow up as big as a house, but thats all back to normal and I am just enjoying food again, instead of "having to eat". Nom nom nom.
Its all going to be okay

I have material !

And I know how to use it!
Jan that lemony pie looks perfect. Not too sweet and ... lemony! Its hard to get her to eat sweets if ever. Yeah really sour tarts and stuff like that might work. She hates peppers. Thats Haydens daily fix. Has to have a pepper a day. Morgan is more likely to eat her veggies raw (well not potatoes and sweet potato)
She loves Philadephia cream cheese too. Shove some of that in celery. I get her Subway.. she likes the bread on that and loaded up with avocado and ranch dressing.
I know it sounds like I am grabbing at straws (a little bit of dressing, a little bit of cheese).... but every little fat calorie added in is a bonus right now. And she is up for it. But with the other stuff she is dealing with I don't want to make food the "issue" or make it AN issue, or make it a chore. Just add the calories where they can be added.
Just keep swimming... just keep swimming.. just keep swimming....