Any kind of abuse, whether it's low-key and subtle or full-blown PTSD with bells on, is not cut and dried and people handle things differently.
Some choose a permanent solution and anyone who's been there and been able to pull back from the abyss, knows how it feels. Just because the thing that drove them there may be judged in degrees of 'awfulness' that they've suffered, to that person their torment is huge and overwhelming - how else would they be driven to take their own life?
PTSD is NOT new. WW1 was a hideous, filthily immoral war that killed millions in terms of battefield casualities and, if you think about it, polluted and took any joy in life out of those who had managed to live through active service. Then again, probably many more who never held a gun or lived in a war zone were affected into the next generation even, because of having to cope with looking after those who had been through the hell of the trenches and been permanently maimed physically. Many, many more bore mental scars the rest of their lives and the people who loved them suffered with them. But they didn't have a fancy name for what they suffered back then and therapy was virtually unheard of except for the very, very, rich. I won't say anymore about that, but if you're interested in how veterans cope with war on that scale in context
then I suggest reading Lady Chatterley's Lover
and concentrate on Lady Chatterley's husband
and not Mellors and Connie
Also a link HERE
which is to a Dreamworlds thread, but pertinent to the D-day Landings and how one man had managed to survive the horror of that, by burying it so deep he could keep functioning, but never come to terms with what he'd been through... It is NOT explicit, but if this type of thing really upsets you then don't read it
. But if you can bear to read it, it does sum up how those men could literally walk through hell and come back and achieve some kind of stability.
We are stronger than we think - and suicide, if it's serious and meant to succeed is, believe me, a very extreme, but valid kind of courage, no matter how 'trivial' the reason is for setting someone off on that path. I believe it is also the ultimate selfish and rejecting action a human being can contemplate, because your suffering may be concluded, but those who know and love you can be irrevocably hurt and devastated by that one brave, desperate action, taken when you are most definitely not in your right mind. Suicide as denegrated morally does not truly exist - it is not a 'crime', nor is it a cry for help. It is unbearable pain and madness.
I'll post another time on how other people are
brave enough to walk away and carry on, but can I suggest that this thread title is changed to something a little less provocative please. I do appreciate the title was not meant to be offensive or dismissive and the topic itself is valid and of benefit to many people on this site, myself included