Yes it did thank you chris. We didn't want the religiousy bits (well actually that's what dad had stipulated, so we were doing as we were told
) and as we all thought it's pointless some professional funeral minister/speaker who never even met my dad doing the service I ended up writing most of it myself and I read out part of the service with a guy the funeral director recommended (the housemate was supposed to help with it too, but as he's in hospital with his broken ankle joint until after Xmas couldn't be there in the end- long explanation in the Frustration Thread he couldn't make it to the service at all
I've been on autopilot since Saturday anyway because (yet again) the housemate was driving me nuts with 'trying to keep my stress levels down' (always guaranteed to send them in the other direction...
) so after he'd gone off in the ambulance I had to get some other stuff organised for the funeral anyway. Consequently I didn't mess up too much with reading and the minister was v. good with the rest of what I'd written about dad and he added a few spiritual bits including a Native American poem that said the kind of things dad used say too about not to be afraid of death. With the weather being so wintry and everything he'd have probably loved the whole thing if he'd been there we think
so a good ending to a really draining time that's left everyone involved feeling reasonably positive about things - he's at peace and we've said goodbye to him as he wanted.